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The death of a friend whom the parent never or seldom met may have very little effect on the parent, but it may have a huge impact on the teen. Maybe if my parents had taken the time to get to know him, it would be different. I guess they'll never understand.""They treated me like a stupid kid. ' I kept looking at people and thinking, 'You don't have a care, and look at me, one of my friends just died." After a peer dies, teens are confronted with the realities of death, the possibilities of their own mortalitiy, and feelings of being abandoned by close friends.
People tend to be predictable, and are prone to repeating the same life mistakes again and again.
Becoming conscious about the types of mistaken decisions one is likely to make (based on having made them in the past) is the best defense against making similar mistakes in the future.
If, for instance, a first spouse was attractive because of his passionate and volatile attitude, but he later turned out to be abusive, it would likely be a mistake to get involved with a similarly passionate and volatile man in the future.
If a first wife, chosen in part because of her careful attention to appearance, turned out to be an out of control shopper in part to support her attention to appearance, it would seem to be a mistake to get involved with similarly 'high maintenance' women in the future.
Most teen friendship revolve around fun times and shared activities. Sometimes the grief after the death of a friend is even harder as old friends sometimes start to break apart as well and on top of the death, is the loss of other friends and good times. It is important that teens learn the truth about the death of their friend, how, when and where a peer died.
Things worried me, but he was the sweetest guy and he was so wonderful to me that I loved him deeply and never would have left him. I understand, and did the surrogate/egg donor research with him.
He was always impulsive with money, has an unstable career, and cut out his best friend of 30 years suddenly.
He loved and raised my kids as his own and I appreciated him deeply and expressed it.
In the end, I simply didn’t feel comfortable with the process and with his ability to provide for a child.
His greatest dream was destroyed, I wish I cold have given it to him.
When adults dismiss the impact of their teenager's grief it only makes it more complicated and often leaves the teen alone in his or her grief. Young people often think that they are immune to death. When a friend died, their entire world and beliefs are shaken to the core.