Daytime dates are a thing here If they can avoid it, Brits don’t do scary stuff by daylight.Americans are bolder beasts and think nothing of meeting for a romantic midday coffee or an afternoon stroll in a scenic graveyard, which is how one of my expat friends spent her first date with her current American squeeze.Some websites gather data about you and crunch the numbers with all kinds of mathematical formulas and algorithms in order to fill up your inbox with compatible matches.A recent report issued by the New York Times weighs in explaining why numbers and formulas are unlikely to help forge the perfect couple.Americans only say “I love you” after months of dating. You might wonder how people get to know each other then.Well, we usually go out in groups and meet within this social group. If you are already friends with the guy, you just spend more time together, get a coffee after school or share a meal at your apartment, and flirt a little bit.Agreeing to “be exclusive” is a discussion you’ll have at some stage if things are progressing well.
So, whereas back home you might find yourselves pootling along, and even up the aisle, having never bothered with the am-I-the-only-person-you’re-dating? Looking out for subtle exclusivity cues, like him introducing you as “my girlfriend” or being invited to meet the parents, is no substitute.Naturally, I’m generalizing, but American women seem more upfront, assertive and opportunistic than their British counterparts.Since the rise of online dating over the past decade, many dating websites have come and gone.While early days juggling of potential partners is considered normal in the U.S., try to limit yourself to one per evening and refrain from discussing your other dates with the person trying to delicately chew burrito opposite you.A common complaint shared by seasoned online daters who have tried various dating sites is that, rarely do the multitude of matchmaking services live up to their claims.