Dating or building relationships is really a threshold issue for Aspies to the extent that they can be divided into two groups -- those who date (or are otherwise involved) and those who don't.This is stereotypically in the form of "dating" but the actual form of meeting and activity can be varied. There is more of a connection between these two things than you might think.As I explained in an earlier article on my personal experiences with AS, "If life in a society is a game (and make no mistake about it, it is), having Asperger's forces you to play while learning two-thirds of the rules as you go along, even as everyone else knows them instinctively ... Still trying to figure out the significance of that. Since people communicate through both verbal and nonverbal methods, those of us with AS are frequently at a disadvantage when attempting to socialize in our personal and professional lives.
After all, there are few places in society where social rules are as crucially important and deeply entrenched as in the sphere of courtship, and being mildly autistic—or having Asperger’s Syndrome (AS), if you use the label as it was before the APA revised its diagnostic criteria last year—impairs your ability to comprehend nonverbal communication.Understanding Your Boyfriend Better Dealing with Differences in Communication Being a Team Community Q&A Autism, known clinically as Autism Spectrum Disorder or ASD, is also sometimes referred to as Asperger Syndrome or PDD-NOS. Some autistic people face extra challenges in romantic relationships, while others eschew them altogether.If you are in a relationship with an autistic person, you may be wondering how to deal with some of the things you have encountered.Beneﬁting from a new gloss of mainstream sex appeal is one thing, but navigating the tricky social rules of dating or long term relationships is another.People with Asperger’s Syndrome who are sexually active (or who’d like to be) are interested in physical pleasure and release, as well as some form of emotional connection. However, people with AS may express emotion or feelings of closeness in a way that is not generally expected.Then, you can begin looking for ways to improve your communication with your boyfriend, such as by anticipating social challenges, accepting repetitive behaviors, staying calm when you are upset, and listening when your boyfriend wants to talk.