When your Mom starts dating other guys or your Dad starts dating other women, it’s hard to get past the initial “ick” factor” let alone learn to cope with the whole dating thing.That’s why so many kids try to keep their parents from dating at all.Parents should respond to the needs and curiosity level of their individual child, offering no more or less information than their child is asking for and is able to understand.Getting advice from a clergyman, pediatrician, family physician, or other health professional may be helpful. 62; Updated February 2013 Click here to download and print a PDF version of this document.Talking to your children about love, intimacy, and sex is an important part of parenting. It seems the media loves to follow major flooding, snow storms and hurricanes as if death and destruction were the coolest thing around! No matter how troubling those stories are, we know God is in control of nature. Only doing what God tells us...obedience to the Bible..glorify Him. The next few days you'll notice many of the lessons cover a lot more areas of life than just dating. In your life...including your dating life..need to ask God first. That said...let's talk about some principles about teen dating. God talks about His close relationship with His people (v. I didn't mean for this to be "Intro to French." And that's not literally what that phrase means anyway. Stick with me.) these words carry the idea that government isn't to interfere in places it doesn't belong. Too many times I've seen teen couples with their hands all over each other..in public no less! Notice verse two talks about everyone having their own spouse. Some day he or she may become someone else's husband or wife. And it's quite clear in Exodus that God is talking to all people..just children. This is especially true while you're living with them and obeying them as well. But first...a quick message from our commercial sponsor... Every relationship you have should first honor and glorify God. I'm talking about every aspect of your life should be based on biblical principles. It does talk about relationships though...including teen dating. Before you engage in physical contact...remember that the person you're becoming intimate with may not be your spouse. We find what Paul is talking about in Exodus which says... It's almost the same...right down to the promise at the end which Paul talks about in verse three in Ephesians. Honour doesn't necessarily mean "obey" like in verse one. No matter where you are in life..should always honor your parents. They even know a lot more than you do no matter what you think.
But as a teen, should you completely lose dating and find other "safer" options? The best and only place to go for good advice about teen dating is the Truth found in the Bible, the Word of God. or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? Hurrying things won't help your dating relationship. And it seems to have the worst consequences in teen dating relationships. Sure it was in a different time..what if dinosaurs were still walking the earth when your parents were dating (just kidding! And they know more than you..matter what you think! If you've made a decision for Christ..should live for Him. You need to listen to His voice in all walks of life...including teen dating.
For more on that, check out “How Can I Keep My Parents From Dating After Divorce?
” Assuming you couldn’t stop them from dating, and most kids can not, you may be wondering what you can do to help make the situation easier or better.
I want to make sure you undestand how I set this thing up. Paul is talking about an "emotional fire." I guess you could call it a "fire of passion." Touching in an attempt to get your girlfriend or boyfriend "in the mood" isn't acceptable Christian behavior. The world has no problem starting "fires of passion." But we aren't like the world.
Casual contact and a helping hand are still allowed. That's not the kind of fire Paul is talking about here. Just keep in mind, God's Word tells us to avoid intimate touching until we find that special marriage partner God has led us to.
Parents can be very helpful by creating a comfortable atmosphere in which to talk to their children about these issues.